Thursday, 31 July 2008

Mademoiselle, que voulez-vous?

This might well turn out to be the most unoriginal post I will ever write, but please bear with me.

After writing and deleting so many times, I’ve realised that I will not know what I want until I’ve found it.

However, I can tell you what I don’t want.

None of these arrogant, bad boys thank you very much! It’s a cover up for gaping holes in personality, self-esteem, equipment and wit; frankly, I don’t buy it.

None of these "Hyper-Spiritual" Christians either. Loving God should not equate with being hypocritical and judgemental. Lord knows what they are hiding!


Oghenekome said...

i enjoyed reading your "sex files" posts. what i've always wondered is why so many women are pro abstinence, yet so many men aren't. many women i know are "saving" themselves for marriage yet i am hard pressed to find a man who is doing the same. additionally, it seems that a lot of the women who are pro-abstinence are perfectly alright marrying men who have been sexually active for a long time. i wonder why they don't hold their potential husbands or partners to the same standards they hold themselves to: i.e. be a virgin.

any thoughts on why this is so?

MissITKnows said...

This is an important point you've raised. I will think about it and get back to you.

Anonymous said...

Nigerian jelly,
Society world over has made virginity more of a virtue for women than for men. And to 'worsen' things, the female sexual anatomy is more vulnerable when virginity is lost. And not forgetting that many men and women still consider it a mans world. It's going to be like that for a long long time.

Oghenekome said...

To anonymous:

I'm not sure I understand what you mean when you say, "And to 'worsen' things, the female sexual anatomy is more vulnerable when virginity is lost." Would you please elaborate? I just want to be sure I understand what you mean.

Also, it doesn't have to continue to be "a man's world" for years and years to come. My biggest concern is that women (and men, to some extent) have become complacent and too accepting of the status quo. Let me explain what I mean. Women fought to have the same rights as men - the right to vote, the right to work in the public sphere, etc. On the other hand, we didn't fight hard (if at all) for men to have the same rights as women - the right to be a house-husband, the right to work in the private/domestic sphere. So, many of us women have moved into the "man's world" but men haven't really moved into ours. It's really just become a one-way street. Women have essentially doubled their workload if you consider that according to the US Census, 65 percent of adult women in America work, yet up to 90 percent of those women still do the bulk of the household work and child-rearing.

Have we been brainwashed to accept this (and by we, I mean both men and women) or is this just the way God ordained it (as some would say)?