- IDENTITY: Who am I?
- DESIRE: What do I want?
- PURPOSE: Why am I here?
and the options for the paths are:
- To conform with what is expected of by family, peers, teachers, the world (easiest)
- To rebel against all expectations - contrary for contrary sake (stupidest)
- To seek an individual path honestly - recognising the need for guidance when necessary, but at all times being true to self (hardest)
Who am I?
I am in the middle of my crossroads and therefore, I have no idea what the answer to this question is.
It was rather unsettling to realise that at 21 I am still unsure of my identity.
I know what I am...
- I am Christian
- I am human
- I am female
- I am black
- I am Nigerian
- I am Yoruba
- I am a sister
- I am a daughter
- I am a friend
- I am a medical student
- I am an avid reader
- I am a film-lover
- I am a budding writer
- I am an amateur vocalist
- I am British-educated
but This is WHAT I am not WHO I am.
While, all of these things in some part might contribute to who I will eventually realise they I am, they are NOT definitive of me. Regardless of what others might be predisposed to think.
I know that for certain.
The path to realising identity is riddled with uncertainties therefore, realising without a shadow of a doubt that WHAT does not equal WHO is a step in the right direction.
It is not something of shame to experience an identity crisis, it is part of the maturing process.
It will pass (gam zeh ya'avor) and when I am finally able to answer this question and the other two questions of Desire and Purpose -which I will be discussing in later posts- I will finally able to leave the "crossroads" zone and start to honestly seek my individual path.